trust n’ bruises
The Weight We Carry Every thread we’ve pulled through these pages—consent, etiquette, power, trust, aftercare, boundaries—they all knot into one truth: this isn’t a playground…
Month: September 2025
silent killers
The Silent Consent Killers: Guilt, Pressure, and Manipulation Picture this: the scene is alive, humming with all the right tension. The music low, the air…
don’t be a jerk
The Golden Rule of BDSM: Don’t Be a Jerk Strip it down and it all comes back to one line: don’t be a jerk. You…
watching the watchers
The Ethics of Watching: Voyeurism With Permission Some people step into a dungeon to play. Others slip to the edges, eyes wide, soaking in the…
violator
The Community Code: Reporting Violations Without Drama Every dungeon, every party, every dim-lit play space has that moment where something tilts. A limit gets trampled.…
saved
Safewords Save Lives (and Relationships) In the old movies, someone yelled fire and the whole room turned. That’s what a safeword is—a flare in the…
power
Playing With Power: Ethics for Dominants So you want to be a dominant. Or you already call yourself one. Congrats—you’re the one holding the reins,…
theft
No Stealing Subs: Navigating Other People’s Dynamics Human nature is greedy. We want what glitters across the room, especially when it’s already claimed. The collar…
no
No Means No, Even in Nipple Clamps Consent is the word kinksters love to circle but never sit with long enough. Everyone wants to talk…
landmines
Navigating Emotional Landmines: Ethics for Submissives The submissive gets mythologized—power and will balanced on a silver platter, or maybe it’s more like a chipped tray…