bleed
The Rules We Bleed For Consent isn’t a contract written once and tucked in a drawer—it’s the blood that circulates through everything we do. It…
Category: rite
balance
Your Fantasy, My Boundary: The Balancing Act Fantasies don’t ask for permission. They barge in at 3 a.m., dripping with fire, chains, rope burns, and…
no clowns
Yes to Spanking, No to Clowns: Creating a Yes/No/Maybe List Planning a scene isn’t a blindfold-and-go adventure. It’s not jumping in the car and hoping…
gone wrong
When Negotiation Goes Wrong Negotiation is supposed to be the careful choreography—the whispered promises, the map that gets you from spark to skin without anyone…
polite no
Declining a Request Without Killing the Mood Picture this: a play party humming like a live wire, music pounding, eyes darting, bodies tuned to a…
morning after
Post-Scene Debriefs and Evaluations The ropes are off. The floggers are back in the bag. The blindfold’s hanging there like it’s tired of pretending to…
overkill
The Curious Case of the Over-Negotiator There’s always one. You’ve seen them. Clipboard in hand, a checklist that could choke a filing cabinet, eyes darting…
building blocks
The Anatomy of a Scene A scene isn’t magic by accident. It doesn’t just fall into place because you’ve got rope in your hands and…
language of safety
Safe Words and Hard Limits Let’s strip it down. The words that matter in kink aren’t buried in a thesaurus or locked in some PhD’s…
the long game
Playing the Long Game: Negotiating for Relationships, Not Just Scenes Everyone chases the perfect scene—the music hitting like it was scored for your skin, the…